Should I Get My Teen Daughter A Vibrator?

Hello Lingeristas and Parents,

Parenting is a tough job..we all know this. Throw in the curve of growing teens dealing with sexuality issues and some parents want to run for the hills! While parents understand the changes your teen is or will be going through, it can still give us (yes, I’m a parent too) that uneasy feeling. So do you ignore the signs of curiosity or hit the ground running with “THE TALK?”

Assuming you have had the talk and you understand your teen daughter is curious. If she is more than just curious and asks you to help her get a vibrator, what will you do? Should you get your teen daughter a vibrator? I actually get this question A LOT! While every situation is different and sometimes difficult, I can counter your question with, “Do you want to raise a grandchild?”

Now I don’t normally say that right off the bat, but that is a serious question you will want to consider when wondering what you should do about your beautiful, budding teen. Think about it…we know that teenage hormones are powerful…whether it anger, sadness, or horniness. I mean the horn hormone is powerful in adults and it may lead to bad decisions for an adult. How can we possibly expect a teen to completely ignore their feelings? If it wasn’t an issue, teen pregnancy wouldn’t be such an epidemic for this country. And let’s not even go into STD’s…

I understand people may not agree with me and that’s ok. However, as a parent, I would encourage an open dialogue with your teen, as uncomfortable as it may be for either of you (or if it can’t be you, find another trusted adult or family member your child trusts) and discuss your child’s sexual needs. If they are brave enough to ask you for a vibrator, try not to completely dismiss the question. Think of it, most teens don’t even want to talk to their parents. Your daughter trusted you enough to talk to you and is not looking for judgement, but it looking for help. If you decide to help her, shop with your teen (it can be discreetly online) and discuss the possibilities available. Don’t over complicate the issue or overwhelm your teen. A simple vibe, that’s easy to use would be best for a first-time user who is just discovering their body.

If they are openly talking about this with you, you are their hero! Continue to be their hero so they know they can count on you! Don’t forget to watch your tone. You don’t want to come across as embarrassed or shameful. Remember, curiosity about sex is normal. However, you don’t want your teen daughter trying to satisfy that curiosity with a boy. Purchasing vibrators and sex toys for daughters can empower them not to rely on a sexual partner and also help educate them about their bodies and what makes them orgasm. “Having a trusted adult or parent give their daughter a vibrator provides the level of permission she needs to reframe any negative ideas she may carry about masturbation and can significantly reduce the level of shame she might feel surrounding her sexuality. It’s the first step toward raising a sexually healthy and aware young adult.” says Anne Hodder, Los Angeles-based sexuality educator and coach.

What you don’t want is your daughter getting her hands on a DIY vibrator: whether its food product or a rechargeable toothbrush. You don’t want them to hurt themselves, their sexual parts or give themselves a bacterial infection. This can easily create more problems health wise or develop into a negative stigma about sex that will stay with them for any period of time.

Here at Naughty and Nice Lingerie, I have recommended these vibrators for teen usage:

Lelo Nea Intimate Massager $89.00 (naughtyandnicelingerie.com)

Lelo Mia 2 Lipstick Vibrator $69.00 (naughtyandnicelingerie.com)

Naughty and Nice Wand Vibrator $69.00 (naughtyandnicelingerie.com)

Naughty and Nice Lingerie G-Spot Bullet Vibrator $19.99

Each product is unique, and offers different levels of pleasure, is easy to use and offers different price points. I wouldn’t recommend all the bells and whistles of higher priced vibrators, since teens are discovering and identifying themselves. Plus, remember, we don’t want to overwhelm them or have them get upset when they cannot work the product without asking for help.  Google will only show you so much. You may have to show them how it turns on, but give them space to discover the modes (most vibrators offer modes) in their own safe space.

So encourage a healthy discussion. This may not be right for every teenage girl, but be open minded in getting your teenage daughter a vibrator for her own wellbeing and possibly for your own piece of mind, to keep her happy, empowered, healthy and satisfied. Good luck with whatever you choose to do within your own family dynamic.

Until next time,

Be happy, be healthy, be safe,
Xoxo,

Brenda and the Lovely Lingerie Team

https://naughtyandnicelingerie.com

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